Posted by Katherine on August 10, 1998 at 08:49:27:
In Reply to: Re: Suicide equals weakness? posted by Kathy S on August 09, 1998 at 02:49:47:
: : Maybe there is more to human weekness than just being a character flaw. Weekness can also mean that someone is more sensitive, more emotionally touched by the same events that may not get to another person in the same way. Sensibility would hardly be regarded as a character flaw. Some people just go through life being more open and touchable than others, and often it is this sensibility that allows these people to produce outstanding art, music or literature.
: : I once heard a psychologist who councels people with addictions describe human weekness like that. I didn't agree with him then, but now I can see his point. Although I find it easier to relate to stronger and maybe less sensitive personalities.
: : Petra
: Petra, what you just said shows an understanding of sensitive personalities. We don't have to agree with them. And that goes for anyone we cannot understand. Perhaps, just admit we have not walked in their moccasins.
: An accomplishment that requires little effort for one person, may be something that requires all of another's strengths. Does that make them weak. It make the one who APPEARS weaker to actually be the stronger.
: Kathy S
When I saw this post I just knew I had to say something.
I love the above: an accomplishment that requires little effort for one person may be something that requires all of another's strengths. This actually makes one who APPEARS weak to actually be stronger.
Ask anyone who has ever had to put in extra effort to accomplish something that others can do with little effort. Ask someone who has lived it. No one can tell on the outside that this person needs to put in extra effort to get the same results as one who can do the same things with little effort. It takes strength. How do I know? Sometimes I live it. And some of my friends who have disabilities that are not so apparent live it too. It takes background strength to cope and put in that extra effort so that on the outside things can look like all along whatever it was that was to be accomplished looks effortless.
If every person say has 10 units of strength and for most people it takes 7 units of strength for everyday accomplishments, then that person has 3 spare units of strength for when things get rough. If for another person it takes more effort say 2 more units of strength then that person only has 1 spare unit of strength. That person would more easily be overwhelmed. BUT that is not to say they are weak because it takes a strong person to cope and compensate that way by actually using more strength to accomplish what others can do with less strength.
Being sensitive, observant and empathetic also take strength too. One takes everything in and processes it all on the inside. Sometimes appearance may not show all the emotion that is going on inside but just because nothing shows on the outside means there is no feeling and emotion at all.
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